I awoke early this morning . I didn’t need to. Game day was yesterday so I was able to sleep in today. But lately I have not been sleeping much at all. So even though I have nothing to look forward to today, I dragged myself out of bed and made coffee. As I looked at myself in the bathroom mirror while washing my face I could see how much I have deteriorated. I have lost so much weight that my face is starting to look gaunt. And I have dark circles under my eyes now that weren’t there before. Surprisingly I don’t have many wrinkles but the state of my skin shows the stress I have been living under. I just don’t look healthy at all. I don’t even smile anymore which is something I used to do with such ease. I miss my old life.
I reminisce on this Easter long weekend. I can remember how this use to be such a family time for me. Weeks before the Sunday I would take a trip to Walmart and buy my girls their Easter dresses and even splurge on new little shoes to go with them. Some years their Nana would buy them each a hat as well. I would hang the dresses up to keep them pristine until Easter Sunday. Then the girls and I (never their father) would dress up and go to Church. My parents would be there and they would beam with pride at their two little granddaughters. My Dad would literally take them from me and show them off to everyone. I was always so happy I could do this for my parents as none of the other grandchildren went to Church. And after Church there would be a dinner at Mom and dads. A big turkey dinner with all the trimmings. Sometimes it was just my family and my parents. but some years my brothers came with their kids too. I always enjoyed these times. I really loved being a Mom and doing these things with my girls. BUT,…. life can change in an instant as mine did. And suddenly my girls were gone and I was on my own,… no more Easters. Or Thanksgivings,… or Christmases with the family again. It was all over for me. THEY all continued the family holiday get togethers. I was just never invited or included anymore. It broke my heart. So today I sit here sadly remembering all the great times. But that’s all I have had since is the memory,…. and I have spent most holidays alone ever since.
Now I am packing. Putting more stuff in boxes. I was such a hardship to have in my family so I want to be as little a burden in my death as possible. I will have all my belongings packed away in boxes ready to be removed from this apartment when I’m gone. They can just back up to a dumpster and throw it all in. They can dust off their hands and be done with me,… Now they no longer even need to pretend they cared. Now they can say “…isn’t that sad how she lost herself.” but the one I know will be said that will piss me the fuck off is”…I wish we had known had badly off she was because we would have helped,…” Make no mistake ~ EVERYONE WHO SHOULD KNOW,… KNOWS . But they have all used the excuse that I am mentally ill and impossible to live with and therefore they had to “self-care” to protect themselves from me. NOT ONE OF THEM changed their stubborn opinion and reached out to help. NOT ONE. I was still the ‘cruel’ mentally mother they couldn’t be around. And after my death that is what will be said.
BULLSHIT ~ It’s Easter. Either one of my daughters could have gotten in touch and said “…. family is family and lets just forgive and forget and move on…” My cousin john did,… why can’t my girls?? Family is about being together even if it’s hard. But apparently I must be a monster becasuse not one of them reached out.
I still have not met my grand daughter. In fact,… i was never even told she was born. i don’t know how much she weighed or the story of her birth. i was completely left out like I was stranger. THAT devastated me and I have never been the same since. I lost my spirit that day. I lost my reason to live that day. But I hung on in the hopes that an olive branch would be extended but it never was. And now I realize it never will. If there was a chance it would have been when I was hit by the car. But Hayley blew it off like it was nothing and not serious at all and Michelle never even heard about it I guess. But if it was going to happen,… it would have been then. They are not coming back. I am on my own forever.
So on top of packing I have completed my will and now it just needs signing.
My life has been such a sad and lonely disappointment. I cry at what could have been
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